“Differentiating from parental interjects and psychological defenses based on the emotional pain of childhood is a central developmental issue in every person’s life,” wrote Firestone.
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Robert Firestone wrote in his book The Self Under Siege, “Differentiation is a universal struggle that all human beings face if they wish to fully develop themselves as individuals.” Firestone outlines four essential steps to the process of differentiation that can help individuals live free of imagined limitations.Īccording to Firestone, in order for our real, authentic self to emerge, we have to identify and separate from destructive programming we received very early in our lives, primarily from our parents or other influential caretakers. To do this, we can engage in a process known as differentiation, which can help us to distinguish our real wants, goals and desires from undesirable outside influences. In order to have the life we say we want, we have to separate our real point of view from negative influences from our past, from people around us or from society at large. Instead, we are, often subconsciously, carrying out someone else’s idea of how we should live. One of the reasons we have the feeling of “I hate my life” is because we aren’t really following our own path. This process starts with asking ourselves a few questions, starting with: We can uncover what’s at the root of our unhappiness and create a life that has personal meaning to us, a life that reflects our unique goals and desires. We can implement tools that help shape how we see and experience the world around us. We can all learn to become more resilient. It’s a matter of how hardy or emotionally resilient we are. Salvatore Maddi of The Hardiness Institute has discovered that what predicts how well we will do in life, our relationships, careers, and so on is NOT how much money we have or even how many struggles we face. No matter what our circumstances, we can all learn tools to help us emerge from the darkest moments in our lives. Yet, in reality, we are not doomed, and we are not powerless. Escaping from this hopeless-seeming state may feel impossible. One in 10 Americans struggles with depression. The truth is, no matter how singled out or overwhelmed we feel, and no matter what area we are struggling in, we are not alone. Most of us have experienced that pivotal peak of pain, anger or frustration in which we want to scream “I hate my life.” Yet, the feeling that a dark cloud has specifically settled over us and our experiences can feel pretty isolating.
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